Recently I have ran into a lot of people who seem to over commit themselves on a regular basis. If you are someone who has too much on your plate, maybe you should check a few things:
Could it be that you don’t have healthy boundaries?
Do you tell people “no”? ever? or at least when it is appropriate?
Having healthy boundaries in place helps us to keep from getting overwhelmed in our lives. Overwhelm can dramatically decrease your quality of life. It can make you exhausted or unhappy, and sometimes both. Here is how to turn that ship around in your own life.
First realize you only have 24 hours in the day whether you are Donald Trump, or the man living under the bridge. We all only have 24 hours in each day to spend on what is most important to our own values and the life we wish to create. So if you are exhausted, check to see if it is how you are spending your time.
First step to getting your sanity back is to step back from it all so you can see it clearly. I recommend looking at it as if you are watching a movie and you are in the audience. This seperates you from it so you can prioritize. Decide which daily activities, clubs you belong to, or people in your life are most important “right now”? Make a list and then number them in order of importance.
Second step: Decide what you need to let go of “for now”.
Third step: Let go of all the people, places, or things that are not necessary “right now” in your life. (some things may be simply shelved for later). This will dramatically increase your focus for the things that are the highest priority in your life and are in alignment with your values and what you choose to focus on now.
Fourth step: Resign, announce, and let go of anything that is not in alignment with your current priorities and focus.
If you need more help on learning to say no, defining your values, increasing your focus, or role playing difficult conversations that will set your life free. Contact me and I can walk you through reclaiming your life.
Paula Lenz Kerr
Are you chasing something “out there” to be happy? What if you don’t have to do ” all those things” to get what you want? What if you were to just “be the person you want to be”? What are you telling your brain?