Quote: If you are not being defined by a vision of the future, then you are left with the old memories of the past and you will be predictable in your life. Joe Dispenza
Have you ever wondered why you do the same thing day in and day out? Have you ever felt frustrated at yourself, because you still haven’t done that thing you promised yourself you would do? Do you sense there is “something” standing in your way of accomplishing your goals?
So I went on the hunt to figure it out. How do I bust through my “blocks”? What is standing in my way? I have done meditation, I have done affirmations, I have done incantations, I have gone to classes, workshops, spent time “healing” from my past, gone to counseling, gone to energy healers, and my brain still blocks me from moving forward.
So what if I can’t change it consciously? What if the subconscious mind is running the show, and no mater how much I practice on a “conscious level”, I am still stuck!
Here is what I do know about the brain, what ever you tell it, it believes you! So when I started looking at my thoughts and asking myself what am I telling my brain? I feel like I got some traction FINALLY.
My sweetheart has the same problem (don’t we all?), he will say something negative or self defeating, and I am so surprised. Everything feels like resistance with him. It is as if he is going through life with the brakes on (have you ever felt like that?). At first it was really bugging me, but if I mentioned anything, he got more stubborn and more resistant. Because well, let’s face it, no one wants someone else pointing out our shortcomings, even if they do have our best interest at heart! So now when he pops off with something negative or self defeating, I just say “so, why do you want to manifest that?!” and I look up and say “cancel”. And in making it funny or something non-judgmental we both can laugh and help each other raise our awareness of what our brain is thinking and turning into words.
How many times I myself have had to say “cancel that last thought please” and then pull that weed and plant a flower in it’s place. However, this is such a slow process. I am only getting older, and my brain still falls back on the “same old shit, different day” stuff that it always has.
I found a book in my early 20’s called “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself”, and I remember it was the first time I was aware of what I was saying inside my head to myself, when I was by myself, about myself. I remember being downtown and walking past a big bank window, and saying “wow, you look so fat!” and that was when I was NOT fat. So no wonder I got fat. My brain created what I told it to! No mater if you tell it destructive things, or constructive things, I learned our brain just does what we tell it to do. We have amazing power in our lives to create whatever we desire, and most of the time we are walking around asking ourselves “crappy questions” or making negative statements inside our head. Why are you so lazy? Why am I so fat? I wonder why he/she hasn’t called me? I really hate this job. I can’t believe I am putting up with this shit from them again! How much longer before this meeting is over?
It wasn’t until I raised my awareness about my “inner monologue” that I was able to observe it, and journal what was really happening inside my head. Once I was able to separate myself from it (become a third party observer of my thoughts as if I was listening to a radio show, and I was in the audience), then I would write down what I was saying to myself, and then applying a technique I was taught when I attended Mendicant (a subconscious mind project I went to once a month for a couple years based on Dr Hornell Hart’s work at Duke University). I would take my negative thought (the weed), and I would replace it with something I did want to think instead (and plant a flower). And believe you me, this gardening was a big job for quite a while. And over time, it worked! Now I am happy to report there are mostly flowers, rather than a ton of weeds in my garden now.
Then I had to look at my feelings…and that is another post! But I would encourage you to start with your thoughts…Observing them…not judging them first. Start there. Everything worth having is worth working for. Be patient and diligent on a daily basis. It is something you must stay on top of daily to change it. But as you do, your life will change and the results you will notice in the end are amazing.
I will just say, as humans we are habitual. The key to everything is becoming aware of your own habits. This is what is running you…your habits.
Thought habits, feelings habits, belief habits, actions habits, and the list goes on…
I am working on turning a class I taught a while back at my office in person, into an online product to sell on my website. It is my journey of Radical Self Healing & Personal Transformation…and sharing this process with others who desire to get a better result in their lives. Being a formally trained life & executive coach since 2002 has sent me on a journey of learning from my clients and from myself and shifting and adjusting daily things to produce new and improved results! The work hasn’t been easy but it has been worth it not to feel trapped in old habits anymore, and to produce new desired results in my life.
Cheers to your success,